What is Love?

Love. We are so sure what that means. In this culture, everyone searches for it. We are often put down if we are not ‘in love’. In my circles, I don’t think people mean to put others down…but they do anyway. It’s more implied than anything, sometimes. Although sometimes it is just said, even if it is in a joking manner. “Oh, you’re single? I’m sorry…”

Isn’t that how people think today? Even in the church. Even in a Christian university such as Cedarville…and can I say, ESPECIALLY in these places?! I don’t know if anyone else has felt it, but I think that these places have put a lot of pressure on us. We feel like we have to go to college, find some great guy (or girl, if you’re a guy…), graduate, and then get married right after college. Is that really the only way to live? People here seem to think so. But I would dare to disagree.

Sure, that is a fine way of life and, in some ways, maybe even ‘easier’. Easier than staying single for an extended season of your life, or perhaps FOREVER. But if that is God’s will for a person, should we really mock them for it? I think not! Just because a woman is single does not mean that she is not beautiful or worth pursuing. It does not mean that she is not valuable or fun. It does not mean that she has nothing to live for! Here’s the thing: Jesus is who we should live for! Oh, we like to sing good songs about living for Jesus, but when we’re completely honest with ourselves, is that actually who we live for? I know I don’t.

Why do we believe that our lives can’t start until we find our perfect match? Actually, ladies…I have a suggestion to make. Dare I say that we are so much more free to do what we want, so to speak, without a guy?! We are free to travel more. We aren’t tied down. When you get married and start a family, you’ll suddenly have a whole lot more responsibility so you won’t have time (or money, not that you have any now…) to go places and do certain things!

Another issue I have with the Christian circles (I’m just focusing on the Christian circles for this blog post) and dating relationships is that they so often imply that marriage is necessary for God to use you. Singleness is VERY rarely spoken about, while it seems like marriage is talked about over and over again. That leaves those who are single feeling like they aren’t worth anything and that God cannot use them just because God has not yet put their love story into action! In my opinion, young people, girls especially, are not taught about their season of singleness nearly enough! Maybe that is why couples are getting younger and younger. Honestly, it’s REDICULOUS! I don’t care who you are, junior high is way to young for a relationship, honey. (Should your mom drive us, or mine? Yeah sorry…that doesn’t work out too well) And I would even say that, in almost all cases, high school is too young as well. I didn’t think so. I wanted a relationship in high school. But now I’m glad it didn’t happen.

But moving on… if we truly knew what love looked like I think we would act quite differently than we have been.

Amazing how God speaks about love (he actually does quite a bit…). While this isn’t just about romantic love, obviously, I think it applies very well:

      “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable ore resentful, it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.” -1 Corinthians 13:4-8a

 

I’m sure that you have heard those verses before. But I would encourage you to really think about those beautiful words for a few moments. I won’t say much about it, because I think it can speak for itself if you let it. I just have one more thing to say.

 A note for all of my single ladies: Your worth is not defined by a boyfriend! I don’t care what anyone says. God can definitely use you (in fact, he can often you use in more ways as a single lady!) and just because other humans don’t believe if you, that doesn’t mean that God has stopped believing in you! Another plea: Ladies, Please don’t wait for a guy to start living your life. I’ve made that mistake. I’ve fallen into that lie just as countless other women have. It is simply not true. Your life does not start when you get married. Your life started when you came into this world. For me, it was nineteen years ago. That’s when my life began. God has you, and me, in this season of singleness for a reason, Ladies! Maybe He can use us as Singles better than He could if we were dating someone. Maybe we’re simply not ready. Maybe we just need to learn how to be single before we can learn how to date someone. Maybe we just need to trust Him!

 

Btw…you girls should read this article, because she said it so much better than I did! http://convergemagazine.com/single-waiting-9283/

 

There is a time to…

Prayer. Prayer is powerful. Lord, help me to remember that! I find that it is so easy to lose heart and give up. I don’t see an answer immediately. Or maybe it’s because I don’t like the subtle answer that I seem to be getting. When in reality, the truth is right there on a bright Neon sign right in front of me. God has heard me. He has given me an answer, wether I like it or not. 

In the words of the author of Ecclesiastes, 

“For everything there is a season, and time for every matter under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; a time to tear, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time for war, and a time for peace.” 

I feel like there was a time to look back and ‘mourn’/regret my mistakes that I made. I did that. But now I feel like God is stretching out His hand to me and help me off of the ground. I can’t stay in that place for any longer. There was a time for those things. It was appropriate. But that time is past. It is SO high-time (maybe even past time, I’m not sure) that I move from my regrets and mistakes and anger into the absolutely beautiful adventures that God has in store for my future if I would just learn how to let go of it all, already! 

Honestly, I’m tired of worrying about everything and attempting to manipulating situations so that they might turn out the way that I want them too. I say ‘attempt’ because it doesn’t usually work out like I want them too, anyway! In fact, very rarely! So why do I keep doing that? Making myself more available. Waiting around a little, hoping for a conversation or something. I hate that about myself. So, going back to the prayer thing…I have been praying about this sort of thing a lot and I’m not gonna give up on it (: I think I’m ready to [start trying to] stop doing those kind of things. 

As the chapel speaker reminded me this morning, if God wanted someone to cross my path, He would make it happen! Like seriously…nothing could ever get in His way! 

Anyway…that was just some of my thoughts that have been helping me and I hope that I have possibly been a little help and an encouragement to you, as well! (: 

Life is Beautiful

I realize that it has been a while since I have written…I wish I could write more often! And it’s getting late and I have to get up EARLY tomorrow to catch the sunrise to take some pictures that are due tomorrow morning…lol. That sounds like I wasn’t trying to get this assignment done, but seriously…I have been trying SO hard for this! It’s been kind of crazy!

…like everything else lately! 

 

Here are just a few of my random thoughts and stuff that I have been thinking about lately and what has been going on, a little bit. I apologize in advance if this is kind of unorganized or whatever, because I am really tired right now (apparently that worked for my OT paper though! LOL! I thought I did soooo bad…yeah, I got an A!! haha).

 

Life is crazy. There. I said it! Crazy how true that is, right? Have you noticed how crazy life gets? And something that I have noticed is this:

The older we get, the crazier (and yes, busier!) life gets!!

When I was younger (before college), I thought that as I got older, life would begin to make more sense. That makes sense, right? I mean…I have more life experience now than I did even a couple years ago, when I was still in high school. But I’ve noticed that that is not exactly how it works…at least that’s now how it has worked out in my own life!

I would love to be able to say that I have everything all figured out. I know exactly what I want to do with my life and what I need to do to get there. I have amazing people in my life who will never let me down. I have a great job lined up for the moment after I graduate (or will when the time comes, since that’s still a LONG ways away!). I have a great guy who will obviously ask me to marry him (okay, so maybe it’s a little soon for that…the engagement thing, anyway lol)! Basically I have everything figured out! I know what God is calling me to do and I’m prepared to just go do it already! But I can’t say that. The thing is, I often feel very confused over what God is calling me to do and where He wants me to go and who He wants me to spend my time, and ultimately life, with. I just have random bits of information about things that I might want to get involved in eventually. And it’s not much. Photography. That’s one of the BIG ones. As with my major, I’m not sure where God is leading me through that one! I’m not even sure if I’m passionate about it like I think I should be. 

I also know that God has placed Orphans on my heart lately. What He wants me to do for them/with them is still up in the air (well, in my perspective anyway). 

The truth is, I seriously do not know what I want to do with my life yet! Yes, I’m working on the photography thing but as I am getting more involved in that, the more that I can see that I really know nothing! Like seriously…I feel so bad at it now as I’m learning more about it! :p haha. 

And, while I wish some things had never happened since starting college, I know that God has/had a reason for allowing those things into my life. I couldn’t see it then. I may not even be able to see it all clearly YET, either. But I believe that eventually God will let me in on the secret as to why those things has happened. Right now I’m not even completely sure what’s going on and I don’t even know if I want it to go a certain way or not! Part of me says yes, but I don’t think I have the right motivation behind that initial response :/ 

Alright it’s getting closer to midnight and I’m super tired…so just a couple more things:

Getting down to the main point…yes, life is crazy but LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL!! If you have the right perspective about what you are going through, I think that even through the messiness and imperfections of everyday life…you can actually see just how beautiful life really is (: So, go enjoy it!

Alright that’s all for now because I’m so tired and I have to get up early to take pictures of the sunrise! It better be worth it tomorrow, just saying! If it’s not even pretty, I’m just gonna give up! lol :p

Have an awesome day in Christ! 😀