{Coffee For Your Heart} You’re not alone

A time is coming and in fact has come when you will be scattered, each to your own home. You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me. ‘I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.’ -John 16:32-33

Hello, my sweet friends. I’m popping over here from Holley’s Coffee For Your Heart blog. This post is about “you’re not alone”

Jesus knew what it was like to feel…and to actually be…alone! So when you doubt that He understands you, think again! 

In Holley’s post, she stated a couple of lies (here they are):

Everyone has more friends than me

Maybe I don’t really belong here

If anyone REALLY knew me, I wouldn’t be loved the same

I have done my fair share believing those lies. They have showed up again and again in my life…especially recently. I struggled with feeling like I don’t belong in certain situations and worrying that everyone else thinks that I don’t belong there either. I have struggled with the last lie that she mentioned…I feel like I have built up walls around my heart to keep myself safe. Safe, maybe, but stifled. Bored. Not living the adventures that I’m sure God has for me if I would just learn to let go and follow Him. I’m afraid to show my true self to people…even the people that I have known for quite a while. Enough about me.

What about you, Dear One? How long have you struggled with feeling alone…even in the middle of a crowd? How long have you been too scared to truly share your heart with someone? Let me let you in on a little secret: If you have true friends, nothing that you tell them will pull you apart. Let me be honest with you for a second. People have a lot of crap in their lives. Sin that repeatedly shows up. Insecurities that no matter how hard they try, won’t go away. Personality differences in their relationships with friends, family, etc. that causes strain. If you have a special friend that you can talk too about anything, talk to her about anything and everything

God said that it was not good for man to be alone…from the very beginning God saw the need for humans to have relationships with other humans. It’s a good thing, but if we constantly close ourselves off to everyone, we are completely missing the pleasure of connecting with someone on a deeper, more personal level! 

I think a lot of feeling alone is built upon our insecurities. We are constantly worrying about what other people are thinking about us. We don’t think we measure up to the others in the group. We don’t feel pretty enough. Good enough. Perfect enough. We just don’t measure up…or do we?

Alright, Ladies…it’s past time that you start believing the truth about yourself instead of all of the lies that you have been believing (me, too, sister!) 

You have so much to give so stop believing that you don’t! If you have not already figured out the passions that God has given you, go find them! Get good at them. Love what you do. Do it with confidence. You have every right to be where God has placed you. Remember:

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” -Eleanor Roosevelt

You belong here because, most likely, this is where God has placed you for the moment! This might not be the best place for you for forever, but if you are following after God’s heart, then you are where He wants you to be. Which means…YOU BELONG!

One more thing…we can’t wait until we’re perfect to start relating with people and connecting with people. Love means taking risks. Love means putting yourself out there. Sometimes it means you’ll get hurt. But, my friend, it’s worth it

Perfect in Weakness

This life is such a crazy ride. I have noticed this especially since starting college! Before college, my life was actually pretty boring…nothing really happened…nothing out of the ordinary, I mean. And while college can get to be that way too, every now and then, it’s definitely been a little crazy…tons of ups and downs! Some days it’s neither all up or all down…but more ups and downs than I think possible.

That’s when GRACE is so real!

I’ve been through a lot of stuff…not all of it was bad, obviously, and I know that God has had a plan for all of it. There have been things that I have gone through and am going through and will go through that I would never choose to go through. I would avoid it if I could. But because God gave me a nudge to take that first step into the fire, and promised to walk with me all the way and to be my strength, I am a better woman because of it. So I can honestly say that I am thankful for everything that I have gone through since I started college…although I still do not understand the purpose of many of those crazy adventures. I can still smile and thank Him for being good and for getting me through certain issues. And if He hasn’t gotten me through it yet, I still have lessons to learn and He will see me to the other side, when the time is right. In the mean time, I need to stop focusing all of my attention on the destination and realize that it’s not just the mountaintop views in life that are beautiful. The journey in-between as well as the valleys can be pretty darn gorgeous if you learn to see with a different perspective (: 

God will never ask you to do something and not give you the power to do it. Whatever tests you are facing, you have the g r a c e to pass it.

And remember:

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

You’re beautiful just as you are!

I don’t know if anyone else thinks the way that I do, but I find it incredibly easy to believe in other people. I love telling other girls that they are beautiful…both inside and out! But here’s the catch:

I just can’t seem to believe it for myself!

I try. I mean, I’ve heard those verses for my whole life…you know the ones, proverbs 31; 1 Peter 3; etc… And I know that those things are true. I really do, it’s just that a little help on the outside would be great too, you know?

But I just want to let you know that I am trying to change my perspective of myself and in that way, maybe I will eventually learn to see myself as beautiful! I believe that God has made me, and you, for a specific and special adventure…and I think that I am also hindering my journey along the path when I constantly find what is wrong with me.

Guess what, ladies…

God made you perfect. He made you unique. And He gave you everything that you need to fulfill His dreams and purposes for your life!

When I look in the mirror and turn away in disgust, I am practically slapping God in the face…telling Him that I’m not happy with the way that He has made me. And when I complain about how ‘bad’ I am at something, that’s telling Him that I’m not happy with what He has given me, either!

So I would encourage you, ladies…the next time you look in the mirror, trying to see differently. Find a different perspective. See with new eyes. God made you purposely just the way you are! So darling, you really are drop dead gorgeous just the way you are!

This is a response to the writing prompt: You’re beautiful…just as you are given by Holley Gerth.