Last semester, I thought a lot about failure. Actually, I thought a lot about a lot of different things, but unfortunately, they all came from a negative perspective. But that’s for a different post. Failure. Are you afraid to fail at something? I know I have been, and I will be in the future. I think it’s totally normal and sometimes, it just happens. Having said that, though, I think that we need to reroute our thinking when it comes to failure.
You see, we always see failure as a bad thing. And it can be. But it really doesn’t have to be. We come at it from a negative perspective, seeing failure as something to run away from at all cost. What will other people think, after all? We ask ourselves. Failure isn’t the worst thing to happen to you. Do you know what is worse than failure? I think it’s worse to not even try. To look at a situation that looks scary and talk yourself out of it, instead of giving yourself the grace to try something and risk ‘failing’ at it! That’s the easy thing to do. To walk away. To walk towards something that looks so much more safe. Some place that is inside of your comfort zone. You know that you will do well at it, because you have done it before…many, many times.
Where is your sense of adventure? Where is the fun in that?!
I know, failure is a scary thing. It sucks. But failure also has the ability for a positive outcome. Failure as the ability to propel you to stand up again, start fighting harder for what you want, so that eventually you can actually get to that place that you thought was impossible! Failure looks bad, and I think that a lot of times our fears aren’t fully realized in the fear of failure itself. More often than not, we’re also terrified of what other people will think if we don’t get that job, don’t get on that team, don’t make it, come close to or actually do fail a class. Maybe the people who would speak negatively to you when that happens, doesn’t deserve to be in your life. Throw out the negativity. Because, at least you tried! If you gave everything you had to that project, and still ‘failed’, get back up and try again…or redirect your energy somewhere else…but anyone who laughs at your for failing at something that you put yourself out on and tried your best, definitely shouldn’t still be in your life. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people.
And remember. Failure isn’t a tattoo. It’s not permanent. You always have the opportunity to bounce back, stand back up, and keep fighting for what you believe in and what you love. It’s not the end. Switch your view of failure from a negative viewpoint, to a positive way of redirecting you to something better. You got this! You are not a failure when you ‘fail’ at something.
What are a couple things that you have felt like a failure in recently?
What happened in those situations? Did you get back up and try at it again and are you making progress in that same area now? Or, did that experience redirect you to something better, more fulfilling, etc.?
Failure is just a bruise. Not a tattoo.