Love Yourself Challenge | Affirmations

{30 Day Love Yourself Challenge}

I don’t know about you, but I’ve struggling with loving myself for basically my whole life so far. I think it’s a fairly widespread epidemic and I think it needs to stop, starting with me. Not only does it destroy your whole day (pretty much every day), it’s unhealthy the thoughts that can come into your head that you actually believe are true about yourself. It’s affects the way you see the world and others and ultimately yourself. So, I got to thinking…I think it would be cool if I could make a 30 day challenge to love yourself! I may even come up with others, but this topic is {affirmations}.

Maybe you’re big on affirmations, and maybe you’re not. But, at the end of the day, I think we can all admit that we need to believe the truth about ourselves and often we don’t even know what the truth is anymore, because we’ve been believing the lies for so long. So, this is the beginning. I would love to know who’s with me on this so that I can pray for you as we walk through this journey together. [I designed this challenge for women, since that’s what applies to me-lol-, but men can join in if they want].

I wrote out an affirmation for 30 individual days, meant to be for each day of a month, in this case November, since we’re almost at November. If you can’t do one every day and you skip a few here and there, I completely understand because that will probably happen to me as well, but hang in there and try to finish it out with me, because I think that if we really put our hearts into this one, God can do amazing things if you let him! This challenge will really only be as good as you make it. I have provided some good things that I think would be good to tell ourselves. But you have a different story than mine. You have different ways of remembering things and different things just make sense to you! So I would encourage you to take some time each day and think about ways you could start believing these truths about yourself. Some ways that could possibly work for me are:

  1. Writing them on colored note cards and placing the cards when I see often throughout the day
  2. Writing them out individually, making sure to write out specific thoughts on this affirmation. Seeing what I struggle with the most and how to overcome that.
  3. Repeat the phrase to myself often throughout the day

And I’m not really sure what else could help, at this point, but if you have thoughts on that, please let me know and I’d love to try new ways with you! So, that being said, here’s my 30 Day Love Yourself Challenge | Affirmations.

Day One | A talent you have. I am good at ______.

Day TwoAn area you are improving at as a person. I am becoming the woman that God sees in me. I am becoming more and more _______, which is making me more like Christ each day. I am doing the best I can, and that is enough.

Day ThreeSomething that you do well for other people. I am really good at doing _______ for my closest friends and family. [Admit your weaknesses/wrong motivations, if you have any.]

Day FourI am enough. Just as I am. I try hard enough. I fight hard enough. Even when I find myself lying face-down in the dirt, I did enough, because that’s when Christ loves to step in and lift me up. I am good enough at what I love to do. As a person/friend/daughter/girlfriend, I am enough.

Day FiveI am a woman of vision. My passions and talents, even if life has gotten tough and my passion has dwindled some, are God-given and eventually I will see the reasons for this. Just take a moment to relax and breathe. You are getting places!

Day SixI am not alone. God is always here, of course, and He has also given me people in my life who care about me and love me and who are there for me. They want what is best for me, too.

Day SevenMy best…today…is good enough. Sometimes your absolute best for a day might be getting out of bed that morning and going to classes…and that’s all that you can do that day. It’s okay. Rest up for a much better tomorrow.

Day EightA talent you have. [A different one].

Day NineI will move on from past events when the time is right

Day TenI am 100% capable of living an exciting, full life.

Day Eleven| I am… [Something positive that describes you]

Day TwelveI am beautiful, inside and out.

Day ThirteenI have the power inside of me to be brave, in whatever situation I am in.

Day FourteenGod has always had a plan for me…and it will come true! I can have peace because of that

Day Fifteen| I am happy. I can becomehappy and I am doing everything I can to be that way. I have a happy future in front of me and today will be good.

Day SixteenI am healthy. I have the power and strong mind to live a healthy lifestyle and make the right choices: food, exercises, healthy habits, relationships, thoughts, mindset…at least for today [and tomorrow I will do the same].

Day SeventeenI am worthy of Respect. Of the right guy. Of Love. Of _______.

Day EighteenI am positive. Even on the most negative days with negative thoughts, that pattern canbe broken. I canbe positive.

Day Nineteen| I am blessed. Today I choose to be grateful for everything that I have and forget everything that I don’t.

Day Twenty| I am confident. In my looks. In who I am as a person. In my talents and abilities. In ____________.

Day Twenty-OneI am known and worth knowing. God knows me completely, as do a few people. I am worth being known deeply.

Day Twenty-Two| I am forgiven. Completely. For everything in my past. I can forgive myself, too, and move on.

Day Twenty-Three| I am successful! I am not a failure. Failing at things is a part of life and can help propel me forward, instead of backward. I have a bright future, full of hope and passion!

Day Twenty-FourI am strong. When I am weak, even then I am strong, through Christ’s power. I have enough strength today for what I need to do.

Day Twenty-Five|I am improving. I am NOT stuck as the person I was…I am continually, however slowly it might seem, moving forward. I can do this!

Day Twenty-SixToday, I choose to forgive myself and welcome deeper healing. From bad choices. Bad thoughts. Wrong motivations. Slow learning. Mistakes. Especially, ________________________.

Day Twenty-SevenToday, I choose to look in a mirror (every mirror I see today), smile at my reflection, and say “I look beautiful,” and find things about myself I genuinely love.

Day Twenty-EightToday, I will recommit to walking through old, dark forgotten paths to find deeper healing if I still have unfinished business.

Day Twenty-NineToday, I will watch more carefully the food and drinks that I put into my body, because my body deserves better. I can life a physically healthy life.

Day Thirty| I have done my very best. And that’s good enough for today. Tomorrow is a new day with a whole bunch of new opportunities. I will have my chance to work hard and do my best tomorrow, but tonight I can rest peacefully, satisfied with what I did today!

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Well, I hope you’re ready to do this challenge with me! Please let me know who you are 🙂 Suggestions on different affirmations to be used in the future, or ways to really drive this home to your brain are very welcome! I am planning on starting this challenge on November 1, 2015.

Who’s with me?

{Senior Year} |m y s t o r y| v o l l e y b a l l

team

This journey has been a long one. One filled with many ups and downs. But overall, even through the downs, this has been an amazing journey (and, in fact, it’s not over yet!).

When I switched from soccer to volleyball in my junior year of high school, all I knew was that I had fallen in love with this sport. I barely knew the game. I knew the basics, and I had the height and the passion. My first year I played for a very small Christian school. I had a ton of catching up to do, with having literally just starting to play that year. I was taught some, obviously, but for a lot of it I was on my own. Apparently I had some natural talent that I didn’t know I had. That year, I started my first game ever and rarely got pulled out, even though I didn’t completely understand the game yet, I played with my whole heart.

2010 (2010)

The second year I played volleyball, my senior year, this Christian school closed down. I had no idea what I was going to do, I just knew that I HAD to keep playing. So, I found a homeschool team that I could play with. It wasn’t the best team and I had to self-teach myself a LOT.

jump serve (2011)

This is the year that I began teaching myself how to jump serve. It was only the beginning! Not many people jump serve in high school and I wanted to prove to myself (and others, I guess) that I could teach myself how to jump serve, even though this was only my second year playing volleyball. I did it. Every jump serve didn’t look great, but the ones that did looked really good.

When senior year ended, I thought volleyball had ended for me, which devastated me. I had really just begun to learn the game and I knew that I was capable of so much more, if only I had more time and good coaching. Freshman year of college I somehow found a group of people who loved playing and I joined a good co-ed intramural volleyball team. We made it to the Championship but, unfortunately, we were beat in the 5th game 15-13 (I think). The coach of the JV team was on that team. He came up to me right after we finished playing and told me that he would love to see me at JV volleyball tryouts. I couldn’t believe it!

I ended up going to tryouts, even though I was scared to death. After tryouts I felt like I had played absolutely horribly and I thought that there was absolutely NO way that I had made it onto the team. I pretty much talked myself into believing that I hadn’t made it. To my surprise, I made it onto the team!

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Sophomore year I didn’t think I should have made it onto the team…and I played like it (when I actually played, which wasn’t much). Junior year I didn’t know if I was going to play, but I ended up playing on the team again. I thought I had come in more confident, only to still not be that confident and still not play as often as I would have liked.

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I learned a lot and continued to grow in my skills as a volleyball player, as well as learn how volleyball connect with the rest of my life. Volleyball isn’t just a hobby on the side for me…something that I like to do for myself as I have time. Volleyball is still a huge passion of mine. I play pretty much all of the time, no matter how busy I am, because I love it that much and because it is a huge stress reliever for me. That still isn’t the main reason that I play it, though. If those were the only reasons that I played it for, it would still all be a waste of time. Something that was a part of my life at one point, and then vanishes. Coach has taught me a lot about what it means to play for God and why that is so important. Volleyball can be an act of worship. When you think about worship, most people probably do not immediately think of volleyball. But for me, volleyball can be worship, although it is extremely hard sometimes to get to that place, instead of playing for selfish reasons, making it not worship-full at all. In the Old Testament, people worshipped God by giving them the very BEST that they had…the best offerings that they could give Him. And for different people, that offering looked different, because they had different things to give Him.

For volleyball, I think that means that it is extremely important to sacrifice our VERY BEST to God, every single point. And for different people, that might look different. But if everyone is continually giving their best (in each individual point!), that is worship and that is why we have a reason to play. And this thought can be carried out to every single part (every story, if you will) of our ultimate story that makes up our life.

Then I got to my senior year.

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This is definitely the closest that I felt to my team.

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I came in actually feeling much more confident. My passing, which has struggled for the previous two years of playing here (mostly for mental reasons…), has definitely improved a ton this year. As the season started, I was super excited when coach played me in the outside position several times. I still played right side when needed, but I did get to play outside as well…which made me so SO happy, because I have been working for that position for 3 years. I am so excited to say that this was not my last season, as I had feared. I am going to be a full-time student next semester, so I believe I can play volleyball my super-senior year as well! I am thankful to God that my time of playing volleyball is not yet finished here at Cedarville. I couldn’t be happier about that, because I can look back and see how much I have changed and grown and IMPROVED (other people have even seen the difference even between this year and last year!), but I know that I can always be improving and learning and growing more and I can’t wait to see how much I can improve next year! It’s been real, Senior year of volleyball, but I WIN! You can’t get rid of me that easily! I’m coming back and I’m gonna crush it for one more year here! #winordie #volleyball #ForHim

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Day One

I have had |Day One|’s before…and I probably (most definitely, actually) will have more of them. That’s what it means to be human. You start over. You say to yourself: “This time I won’t give up! This time I really mean it and it’s for real!” Well, how many times have you said that to yourself?

For me, the struggle of living a healthy, happy, beautiful lifestyle is extremely real. Living a fit lifestyle, being healthy in every aspect of your life…that’s what’s hard! I’ve had several ‘day one’s’ when it comes to running in the past. I started another ‘day one’ at the beginning of last summer. I told myself that, even after the summer ended, I would continue running as I had been all summer (and I did keep it up fairly well all summer!). But then everyone came back, so I told myself that I would just take a few days off of running as everyone was coming back and things were crazy with people and school starting soon and everything. But then more excuses caught up with me and my will to keep fighting to keep up the disciplines dwindled. School got crazier. Volleyball season started. Then I told myself that I would wait until after volleyball season, but thankfully my boyfriend wanted to work out with me, and we started seriously thinking about what we need to do as far as working out for this week (before volleyball season ends).

Today is my Day One. It is a new beginning and a new start. I tend to get really down on myself and frustrated with myself because I can’t perform as I think I should. I think I should be able to do anything, because I want to be able to sooo bad. I want my end result…right now. The problem is, that can’t happen. Getting fit and learning how to live that way and become the best version of myself that I can, is 100% a process that can’t be cheated or short-cut. Cheating will only hurt YOU!

Today’s ThoughtsToday, my main enemy was mental. I know that that is extremely important in any form of exercise, but my mind was quite literally beating me up today. We ran two miles today, after not running for a long time. My mind kept telling me over and over again to quit…and I wanted to listen. I stopped a little. I got angry. However, I didn’t focus my anger on the right things. I think it’s okay to be angry. Be angry that I’m tired. Be angry that it hurts and I’m out of shape and that I can’t perform as I want to. But it’s important to not be angry as I was today. I was pulling all my anger and focusing it on myself, tearing myself down. Telling myself that I can’t do it (which is a word that I hope to slowly rip from my vocabulary). Telling myself that I am fat and ugly and that I will never be able to change because I couldn’t keep up with my boyfriend and because I gave up sooner. That I gave up at ALL. I am learning that a discipline such as working out is all about how to focus your emotions and keeping a positive outlook…and, even if you’re not satisfied with your performance today…there’s always tomorrow.

I’ve heard plenty of quotes about not comparing yourself to other people (in this case while working out/running, etc.), but to compare yourself to the person that you were yesterday. I think that that is an extremely important point to remember and something that I definitely find extremely difficult to do, especially when running/working out with other people or when a lot of other people are around. But who knows how long they’ve been doing what you just started today. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re doing the best that you can today, and that is all that God expects from you, so it’s all that you should expect from yourself. Beat your time from yesterday. Beat your performance from yesterday. Hold the plank a little longer. Run a little further. Have a better mindset today than you did yesterday. Be more positive. Little things go a long ways. 

Summary of today: It was hard. Tough. Tested me physically and mentally. But I did it, and that’s something to be proud of. The thing is, obviously there won’t be results yet. It’s the first day! But I think it’s important to be proud of yourself every single step of the journey. Proud that you went out for that run even when (and especially when!) it was so difficult for you, etc. So, if nothing else, I’m proud that I did it today. Not only did we run 2 miles, but we started a full body workout challenge today to be done every day this week. We did 13 different bodyweight exercises. It was a pretty slow pace because it was the first day…trying to figure out the different exercises and stuff, but it will get faster and results will come…….in time. I wanted to quit. I got frustrated. I got angry. I failed. But I also succeeded because I did it…and I’m proud of myself every time I lace up my running shoes and just do it

Who’s with me? Please share your workout/running journey with me and what it is teaching you about life and about yourself ❤ I’d love to hear it. Keep going. Day One is never a good indicator as to how the rest of the journey will go. Keep pushing through, One Day at a time (not two or three, or the whole week…but one day at a time). You can do this!!

{Love Letters} Live now.

I have given you a lot to do. You’re a college student. You love people and you love being with people and having fun. Then, you got sick. For two weeks. You got behind in a couple projects and assignments. You lost focus. Again. Thoughts from your past keep popping up at random times, keeping you guessing and wondering what is going on and when you’ll be completely healed from everything. You think you are. Then someone brings up the topic…and you could rant about it forever. You find yourself getting upset about it easily. You’re scared to death of certain people asking you “how are you” or “how was your day” or something similar, because you know they mean it and you know that you will start crying. And the worst part is, you’re not even sure why you would start crying. You just know that you’re on the verge of crying when someone actually cares about how you’re doing, because you’re tired. Tired of smiling and convincing others (as well as yourself) that you’re okay and that everything is fine. For some reason, everything is just off. You’re not even sure why or what happened. But you know that you have unfinished business from your past that you have yet to deal with and work through.

I know. Trust me, Child, I know. I see you. I see your heart. I see how hard you’re trying.

All you want to do is to be able to live fully right now, where you’re at. You want to learn how to live life to it’s fullest right now. Even when things are crazy. And stress is potential and right at the surface. And nothing is going right. And you’re confused. And you feel exhausted and like crying. Because it will always be like that. Life is going to be crazy sometimes (a lot of the time, probably). Life is never going to be perfect and you know that you can’t wait to truly start living life to the fullest until life is great and perfect and wonderful. Because that’s just not going to happen and if you keep waiting for that to happen, you’re never going to be completely happy or fulfilled or satisfied.

Live how I want you to now. Among the mess. The imperfect. The crazy.